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Keeping the Spark in Long-Term Senior Relationships

By Patricia Schumacher, 9:00 am on

Some Rhode Island senior care providers think the elderly can’t lead happy sex lives, but they are mistaken. According to data from a new study, seniors (and others in long-term relationships) can maintain satisfying and active sex lives with a little bit of effort. A 2016 Chapman University study examined the sexual activity of long-term couples and found various factors that kept the spark alive in these life-long unions.

What Prompted the Study?

The vast majority of respondents, 85 percent in fact, reported satisfaction with their partners during the first six months of their relationship. That sexual bliss during the “honeymoon period” sharply declined later, according to David Frederick, lead author of the study. Some 41 percent of men and 27 percent of women involved currently feel dissatisfied with their sex lives.

What Happened During the Study?

For long-term couples, simple gestures of affection were found to be more beneficial for maintaining an active sex life than anything else. Kissing, cuddling, laughing during sex and setting the mood with candles and flowers were all activities reported by couples that were still satisfied with one another. Using sex toys and the willingness to try new positions were also correlated sexual wellbeing and satisfaction. All in all, 43 percent of women and 55 percent of men remained satisfied in the twilight years of the relationship by implementing these activities.

Further Findings of the Study

The key to maintaining a happy libido for both men and women is maintaining romance throughout the lifespan of the courtship. The happy couples used words such as “tender” to describe their most recent sexual encounters, the study found. Taking their time also seemed to be a factor. Approximately half of the satisfied couples reported having sex for longer than 30 minutes during their last encounter. The takeaway from the findings, co-author Dr. Janet Lever said, was avoiding falling into a routine pattern that might stagnate a decades-long relationship.

The key to maintaining a happy relationship during the golden years involves a healthy and active sex life. Not only does this promote strong bonds, but also a healthy lifestyle. To learn more about senior health and wellbeing, turn to Home Care Assistance. In addition to helping seniors maintain healthy, happy lifestyles, we also provide specific services such as Alzheimer’s, dementia, and Rhode Island stroke care to assist seniors manage illness in the comfort of home. Contact an experienced Care Manager today at (401) 284-0979 to learn more about schedule a complimentary consultation.